Know where you stand before you take a single step.
Ten questions. About three minutes. A clearer picture of where you are and what kind of support may help most.
Divorce Readiness Quiz
Structured questions. No pressure. Completely private.
Before you begin
This quiz is a private way to think through where you stand. It takes about three minutes, asks for no personal details, and requires no email.
One thing first: feeling safe and on equal footing matters more than any score here. If you ever feel afraid, controlled, or pressured by your spouse, mediation may not be the right starting point, and that's worth knowing before anything else. You can stop at any time.
If you're in immediate danger, call 911 or reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233 (or text START to 88788).
A quick check-in before we start
Let's start with a conversation, not a quiz
Thank you for your honesty. From what you've shared, the most useful next step isn't a score — it's a direct conversation.
When there's fear, pressure, or a real imbalance between two people, mediation usually isn't the right place to begin, because it depends on both people being able to speak and decide freely. That doesn't mean you're out of options — it means the right support looks a little different, and I'd rather help you find it personally than hand you an automated result.
You can reach me directly at Colleen@ColleenONeil.com or 203-232-5102.
If you'd like to talk to someone right now, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is there 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.
You don't have to do anything right now. You can close this page whenever you need to.
Reviewing your responses...
Taking a careful look at what you shared.
This quiz is a structured way to think through where you stand. It isn't a diagnosis, an intake form, or a commitment to anything. It doesn't ask for your email, and your answers aren't saved to a profile or shared.
If your situation involves abuse or coercive control, or you feel unsafe with your spouse, this quiz isn't the right starting point. Reach out directly and we'll talk through safer options first. If you're in immediate danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.