Why having a good divorce attorney doesn’t mean you have to think through every decision alone.

It’s 11:40 on a Tuesday night. The kids are finally asleep. You’re at the kitchen table with a settlement offer open on your laptop and an email from your attorney that ends with one line:

“Let me know how you’d like to proceed”…

I taught math for about ten years. For most of them, I could usually tell when a family was coming apart before anyone said a word to me about it.

Not from a phone call or a parent meeting. From the homework, from my eyes, from my experience.

A child who always turned things in would start missing assignments, but only on certain days, and always the same days. A student who used to raise her hand went quiet. A grade would drift down without any drama, a B to a C to a D over time. A notebook would go missing, because the notebook was at the other house.

None of that ever showed up in a divorce agreement…

Why most divorces are shorter than the fight you’re expecting

Most people walk into divorce braced for a fight over everything. The house, the money, the kids, the dog, the holidays. You’ve been rehearsing it. You may already be pricing attorneys for it.

Here’s what I see across the table as a divorce mediator in Connecticut: by the time a couple sits down with me, they have quietly settled most of it. They just haven’t noticed…